#11 things I’ve learned about marriage…⁣

I now feel like a grown up! And so, to celebrate 3 years of being married (which sounded impossible in my twenties) I’ve been reflecting on my own relationship and the love I share with Paul…⁣

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1. Learn your partners LOVE LANGUAGE & get to know yours too. When I was a love coach (back in 2016, some of you may remember my live events in London) I used to talk about this…if you don’t know what I’m talking about, look it up, today!!! It will instantly enable you to understand them more!!!⁣

2. It’s not all about you!! Be compassionate and be willing to listen to your partners side of things, even though it’s not easy because you’re convinced you’re “right” – do it anyway…⁣

3. Love them unconditionally…don’t ever hold back love…this is your inner child at play, and it’s only going to hurt you. Love them even when they upset you or let you down.⁣

4. Live your own life. Let go of attachment in the relationship or needing them to do everything with you. Have fun without them, and then bring the passion home. ⁣

5. Get your own interests and skills. It’s so important to have your own experiences and invest time and energy into what you love to do & what excites you…⁣

6. Appreciate who you have in front of you, appreciate them every day for everything they do…you called them in, you invited them into your life so remember it was your choice…so appreciate your choices⁣

7. When you feel triggered by something they do, it’s often about you and your “stuff”, and not them. How’s this possible? Because they are not triggered in that moment, you are. So it’s not them who has a problem with what’s happened, it’s you. Slight clue telling you that it’s something in YOU which needs healing…⁣

8. We are all “wounded children” walking around in adults bodies, so be gentle with each other and remember this is what’s going on…⁣

9. Take time to really listen to your partner. Hold space, don’t interrupt, listen without judgement…(this one I’m still learning how to)⁣

10. Design your life together. Book out time to both come together and visualise how you want your life to be. Manifest more, together and become more aligned with what you both desire…⁣

11. Release the emotions. It’s ok to have an occasional argument and a release of energy!! It’s not ok if it’s every week or every day, it’s exhausting…go figure out why it’s more often…