3 Ways to Upgrade Your Relationship with Money

You are in a relationship with money, whether you realise it or not.

The way you think about, speak to, and interact with money is shaping your financial reality every single day. Just like in any relationship, your energy and behavior determine whether money feels welcome, appreciated, and safe with you—or whether it feels ignored, mistreated, or pushed away.

Think about it: If money were a person, how would it describe your relationship? Do you only think about it when you’re stressed? Do you avoid it, hoping it will somehow fix itself? Or do you nurture it, respect it, and invite it in with open arms? So many of us carry unconscious wounds around money—abandonment, rejection, fear of being used—that we unknowingly project onto our financial lives.

The key to changing your money reality is shifting this dynamic. Here are 3 things you can do:

1. Start treating money like a valued partner. Speak to it with kindness. Express gratitude for its presence. 
2. Check in with it regularly instead of avoiding it. How do you feel about money currently? Are there any thoughts or feelings that are coming out whenever you check your bank balance or when you think of investing or purchasing something? How do you feel about the current amount of money that you have now–worried or grateful?
3. Try writing a love letter to money, telling it how much you appreciate what it has done for you. Say things like, Money, I love having you in my life. I promise to take care of you, to respect you, and to invite you in with an open heart.

This might sound simple, but energy doesn’t lie. When you shift how you relate to money, money responds. It starts showing up for you in unexpected ways—clients appear, opportunities arise, gifts and unexpected income flow in. It’s not about chasing money; it’s about attracting it through the frequency of love and trust.

A healthy, loving relationship with money isn’t about obsession or control—it’s about partnership. When you start seeing money as a loyal companion rather than a fleeting, unpredictable force, you unlock a whole new level of financial ease.

So the question is: How will you date money today?