3 Ways to Build “Safety” with Spending
For so many women in our world, the fear isn’t just not having enough money—it’s what happens when they spend it. Even when the income is flowing, there’s often a hesitation, a tightness in the chest, or a wave of guilt that rises when it’s time to invest, treat themselves, or simply release money. This is the “it’s not safe to spend” block. And while it might sound like a budgeting issue on the surface, it’s almost always an issue of safety in the nervous system.
This belief tends to form early. Maybe you witnessed arguments about money growing up, or saw loved ones lose everything overnight. Maybe spending led to punishment, or no one around you ever modeled joyful, empowered investing. In those moments, your system learned: keep it close. Hold on tight. Letting go isn’t safe. But here’s the reframe: true financial expansion isn’t just about how much you receive—it’s also about how freely you can circulate what you have, without fear.
Here are three simple ways to start building safety with spending—practices we explore more deeply in our work:
Anchor before you spend.
Before making a payment—especially one that triggers discomfort—place a hand on your heart or belly and take three grounding breaths. Say internally: “I’m safe to spend. This is a signal to the universe that I trust money to return.” Bringing your body into safety shifts the energetic imprint of the transaction.
Create a ritual around releasing.
Instead of treating spending like a stressful task, make it intentional. Light a candle, play music, or speak a blessing over the money as it leaves. This transforms spending from something fear-based into a sacred, affirming act.
Track the return.
Start noticing how money, opportunities, or unexpected gifts come back to you after you’ve spent in alignment. Keep a list. This begins to rewire your subconscious from spending = loss to spending = flow.
Releasing money with trust is one of the most powerful wealth recalibrations there is. And when your system learns that letting go isn’t loss—it’s creation—that’s when everything starts to change.
